Unless you’ve been living under a rock, I’m certain you’ve heard, or at least seen, the commotion surrounding her and her work.
So, who is Bonnie Blue?
In the midst of an internet storm, a 24-year-old British Only Fans creator has found herself as the next victim of ‘cancel culture’. Her content is problematic to say the least, her biggest claim to fame being that she slept with 158 men in two weeks.
Oh, but that’s not problematic, you may say to yourself. But let’s have a look at where she finds these men.
Those two weeks took place in Nottingham, Bonnie purposefully choosing to seek out newly 18-year-old freshers. She sees teenagers queuing for up to 8 hours, just for one chance with her.
Now what’s sexy about vulnerable or ‘barely legal’, as she would say, teenagers? God knows.
Let’s unpack the term ‘barely legal’. A term that has consistently appeared throughout the porn industry, specifically targeting women and accrediting their youth and vulnerability to being attractive.
This phrase is loaded with implications, suggesting a stark commodification of youth that is deeply unsettling. In an era where we are becoming increasingly aware of issues surrounding consent and power dynamics, the glamorisation of pursuing young individuals—who are often still navigating their own identities and boundaries—under the guise of adult entertainment is nothing short of alarming.
When does consent become coercion, especially when one party is far more experienced and influential?
During a podcast appearance, she stated, ‘I don't want to just do students, I want to do their dads as well.’ An idea she got after a father was jealous when he showed up with his son, wanting to ‘join in’.
So not only do we have some strange incest fantasies, but we have a woman profiting off the exfoliation of young men. A proud one at that, her own words: ‘I love it, they loved it and it made me rich.’
Her niche market brings her a significant income, travelling around the globe to target these young men. Whether it be Cancun, Australia or England, she shares her location, allowing people to queue and have sex with her. This then allows her to film content, creating revenue.
To say I’m speechless would be an understatement.
Whilst she claims the men sign consent forms and show ID, I’d argue, the implications of a freshly 18-year-old, losing his virginity on camera to a sex worker is rather concerning.
If the roles were reversed, I expect the man would be subject to a hate train much worse. And I despise having to back men in these situations, so trust me when I say that hurt to type…
An adult woman deliberately positioning herself near universities and student hotspots to exploit the naivety and inexperience of young men is far from empowering. It's manipulative, and it reinforces harmful stereotypes about masculinity, sexuality, and consent.
Despite her claims that these sex marathons are to dispel porn myths and help virgins, I’d argue having their vulnerable experience documented online forever and at the hands of someone who is having sex with countless a day, is neither helpful or realistic.
Let’s face it: the young men in Bonnie Blue's sights are often at a particularly vulnerable stage in their lives. Fresh out of high school and navigating the complexities of adulthood, many young men are still figuring out their identities, self-worth, and relationships.
They are often seeking validation and intimacy in a world that increasingly commodifies these experiences. By preying on this vulnerability, Bonnie Blue is not just capitalising on their inexperience; she is helping to create a toxic environment where young men are treated as little more than wallets, their emotional and psychological wellbeing disregarded.
Not only is her behaviour predatory, but she has made continuous comments about sex, relationships and women, further contributing to the exploitation of women.
‘If women were better in the bedroom, men wouldn’t cheat. All their nagging about pots not being done is resulting in me being bent over their kitchen worktops whilst they’re out. I used to blame the men for cheating but since being a sex worker, I blame the woman. Men look elsewhere when they’re bored, so stop boring them.’
That lovely quote came directly form Bonnie Blue herself.
Bonnie's choice to target married men speaks volumes about the ethics of her engagement with them. This not only fractures the trust inherent in marital relationships but also mirrors a societal tolerance for infidelity that further complicates the discourse surrounding sexual ethics. These interactions can have profound, long-lasting emotional and psychological effects on all parties involved, including the innocent spouses who remain unaware of these liaisons. In a society that conveniently turns a blind eye to such realities, it’s crucial to interrogate the narratives glorifying these kinds of relationships.
By asserting that women are to blame for their partner's affair due to their “boring” nature or insufficient sexual prowess, we are perpetuating a dangerous stereotype. This line of thinking reduces women to mere performers in a man’s life, tasked with keeping him entertained lest he stray. Such attitudes contribute to a culture of emotional blackmail where the responsibility for a man's desires and choices is unjustly placed on the shoulders of women. If men cheat, it’s because they lack self-control or moral integrity—not because women somehow failed to meet an arbitrary set of standards.
Moreover, this rhetoric inadvertently supports the notion that a woman’s worth is determined by her sexual performance. We are not here to fulfill a checklist of sexual achievements for men’s satisfaction. Women are not objects placed on this earth to keep men happy or fulfilled. This harmful mindset reinforces a patriarchal culture where a woman’s value is tied not to her intellect, personality, or contributions to a partnership, but rather to how “good” she is at sex. It’s both reductive and dehumanising.
Now we already know my thoughts on sex work, something I plan on touching on.
When Bonnie has positioned herself as a savvy entrepreneur exploiting a niche market, we must resist the temptation to praise her actions. Instead of merely congratulating her on her business, we should critically examine the moral implications of leveraging socio-economic circumstances for personal gain.
When we live in a society that is witnessing a femicide pandemic, people like Bonnie Blue are sending us backwards. In the UK, it’s estimated that, 1 woman is killed by a man every 3 days. Globally, six women are killed every hour by men, most in their own family or their partners.
By reducing women to sexual pleasure machines that can be discarded on as needed, impressionable young people and incels are given an environment that cultivates these new-found problematic mindsets.
Now whilst sex work is entirely problematic, those who partake in it, are considered significantly vulnerable. Instead of glamorising the fact you made 3 million in a year, why not discuss the realities for most. Not just the one lady who doxxes herself on the internet and rage baits on podcasts.
Many women engaged in sex work do so out of desperation, often stemming from economic disadvantage, history of abuse, or lack of options. A study by the London School of Economics revealed that nearly 60% of sex workers faced violence while in the industry, stemming from clients, partners, or broader societal norms that devalue women. When combined with the risk factors of femicide, the exploitation inherent in sex work becomes apparent.
The psychological toll of engaging in sex work is another alarming aspect that often goes unaddressed. Research published in the Journal of Sex Research indicates that sex workers often experience higher rates of PTSD, anxiety, and depression compared to their peers not involved in sex work. Part of the problem lies in societal attitudes that either romanticise or vilify sex work, failing to see it for what it often is: an act without the context of true consent, power dynamics, and survival rather than choice.
Moreover, the normalization of sex work could inadvertently reinforce harmful stereotypes that objectify women and reduce them to commodities. When society accepts the commodification of bodies, it fosters a culture that further alienates women and promotes ideas of ownership. These ideas can contribute to increased violence and misogyny, which are already fuelled by toxic ideologies prevalent in incel communities.
Instead of wrapping sex work in a veil of false empowerment, we should shift our focus to providing substantial support for women: creating systems that offer real economic opportunities, access to education, and mental health resources. Society must confront the underlying issues that lead women to sex work in the first place, rather than glamorising the act itself.
This controversy is not just about Bonnie Blue; it reflects a cultural moment where ethical considerations are often secondary to sensationalism and profit. The normalisation of exploitative behaviours, especially regarding young individuals who may not fully grasp the ramifications of their choices, sets a dangerous precedent. It invites a dangerous culture where consent is continually questioned and blurred by manipulative power dynamics masked as freedom.
As consumers of content, we need to ask ourselves what kind of narratives we are willing to accept and promote. The backlash against Bonnie Blue should serve as a wake-up call about the broader implications of her actions.